𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑙𝑒 𝑡𝑖𝑝𝑠 𝑡𝑜 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝 𝑙𝑖𝑡𝑡𝑙𝑒 ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑡𝑠
♡ ┊ opening your window, or just the curtains. observe the weather. is it raining--are the rain drops on your window racing ? is it sunny--is it bright and colorful and warm ? is it snowing--do you get to bundle up and drink something festive ? are there clouds in the sky--what shapes are they ?
♡ ┊ trying to get just a little more sunshine
♡ ┊ taking short walks, taking note of nature, feeling the breeze on your skin. physically touch the nature around you, realize how each object has it's own unique textures and qualities. go slow, enjoy yourself
♡ ┊ spending time with a pet if you have one. your pets love you unconditionally
♡ ┊ removing and/or reducing things that cause stress, ex. social media
♡ ┊ taking time for hygiene--have a shower or bath, brush your teeth, use perfume and/or lotions you like. hygiene is a basic nessecity that all people deserve to be able to make time for, it is not a waste of time and you deserve to feel clean
♡ ┊ making more time for things you genuinely enjoy. think about when you're having the most fun. what is it that makes those times fun ?
♡ ┊ i know you're tired of hearing this, but really, drink some more water
♡ ┊ do what you can to ensure the space around you is clean, neat, and tidy. if the thought of cleaning your space right now sounds far too overwhelming, every time you get up to go use the bathroom or get a snack, just put ONE item where it's supposed to go. just one. just like with hygiene, you deserve to exist in a space that is clean, and cleaning is not a waste of time
♡ ┊ reaching out to your friends. they love you. you are not a bother !!
♡ ┊ reminding yourself that a bad mood can and will lie to you
♡ ┊ you deserve to treat yourself kindly, there's no reason to punish yourself
♡ ┊ maybe kind of a silly one, but don't underestimate the power of vitamin and mineral supplements. they can help you feel better physically, and maybe even mentally sometimes. take them as directed, of course, but my iron supplements really help me a lot with my chronic fatigue for example
𝑚𝑜𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑢𝑚𝑎
♡ ┊ ask yourself how you're feeling. you may in denial, paranoid, feeling helpless, angry, guilty, sad, among many other possible feelings. it's okay to acknowledge and accept when you are unwell
♡ ┊ identify any physical symptoms you may be having, such as lack of sleep, oversleeping, having an excessive amount of nightmares, poor concentration and/or memory problems, and trouble recalling events, just to name some
♡ ┊ while it may be very, very difficult, please do currate a support system of friends. people who are like you who will love and support you even when youre at your lowest. people who you can recall the events of your trauma to, who will listen and accept you
♡ ┊ don't be afraid to take time to yourself if you just want to be alone, but make certain to treat yourself kindly during these times as well. if you find that your alone time is causing you to spiral into unpleasant thoughts--stop, confide in a friend and tell them about these thoughts. work through them together. enjoy your alone time safely
♡ ┊ don't bottle up your feelings. bottling them up and pretending it never happened will just elongate those feelings, like trapping a bee in a glass jar. you can pretend the bee isn't there, but there's only one true way to remove and free the bee--take the lid off. be. sad. don't repress it, think about it directly, cry your eyes out, anything. do it with a friend if you can, but by yourself is okay too. if you can do that, it removes most if not all of the incredibly strong negative feelings that recalling your trauma can have on you. you've already gotten the being sad part over with. of course, it will surely take more than one day, and it's incredibly difficult to do, so please take your time. healing takes years. you are
doing your best, you are doing more
than good enough
♡ ┊ don't resort to harmful outlets, please. if you find that you already are doing these things, look into the nessecary steps to stop what's only doing you more harm. you deserve better, i love you
♡ ┊ if your trauma involved an abuser, remind yourself that your abuser's cruelty is not really how the world works. abusers lie to their victims. some abusers will convince their victims that they are not deserving of love, that love is conditional, that their victim is not worth being loved, that their victim is in some way something to be used for favors, etc etc. these are lies.
if someone has or is treating you like this, there is no circumstance in which they are someone that deserves your time or your energy. you deserve love that is fully unconditional and pure of heart, ZERO exceptions
♡ ┊ has your trauma caused you to drop a hobby that you used to love pre-dating the trauma ? gently try taking the hobby back up, but acknowledge that is so so so okay
if it doesn't make you feel the way you used to. you are hurt. you are still healing. give yourself the gentleness you deserve, and eventually, with time, you might find yourself getting all the joy you used to get out of this hobby. maybe even try taking up a brand new hobby you've never tried before
𝑐𝑜𝑝𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑤𝑖𝑡ℎ 𝑝𝑎𝑛𝑖𝑐 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑥𝑖𝑒𝑡𝑦
♡ ┊ ground yourself. physically get out a notebook and write 5 things you can currently see, 4 things you can currently feel, 3 things you can currently hear, 2 things you can currently smell, and 1 thing you can currently taste. if there's nothing you can smell or taste or hear, instead write down your favorite flavor, scents, and songs. instead of your favorite flavor, you can also instead write one thing you like about yourself
♡ ┊ try to do something that usually relaxes you. you can play a game, watch a cartoon, play with stuffed animals, color or draw, talk to friends, play with pets, play outside, etc.
♡ ┊ ask a trusted friend to remind you how unreasonable anxiety can be--because anxiety really does like to make mountains out of molehills
♡ ┊ if you're in the mood to, you can try dancing to yourself in your bedroom, it'll help your body offload the extra adrenline. you can do the same thing with pacing if you prefer that, but dancing will probably get the job done faster
♡ ┊ if you can and would like to, keep as many senses occupied as you can in ways that are positive and beneficial. pet your favorite plushie and really feel the texture, light a candle or spray a scent you enjoy, eat something you like and really focus on the flavor and texture of the food.
ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝 𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑠𝑙𝑒𝑒𝑝
♡ ┊ do all you can to make sure you're physically comfortable. if your feet are cold, put on some socks ! if you're too warm, use a thinner blanket ! of course those things might seem really obvious, but when you're tired, you don't always notice when you're uncomfortable like that. also, if you can, buy a better pillow or mattress. clean your sheets and pillow cases regularly, too
♡ ┊ try drinking a warm drink of your choosing, such as tea or hot milk. avoid cold drinks before bed, as they'll just wake you up more. only have a small amount, or you could end up just waking up again after you've finally fallen asleep
♡ ┊ if you find that you're unable to sleep because of racing thoughts, maybe put on a playlist from a youtuber you've seen a thousand times before, like an old lets-play. it'll be engaging enough to keep your mind from wandering too far, while not being so engaging that you can't fall asleep. make sure the volume isn't too high. enable night-mode on your devices, it reduces the amount of blue light coming from your screens, which helps your brain to realize that it's time to go to bed. if you're using a laptop, you can adjust the settings so that you can close the lid without your laptop going into sleep mode, so you can just listen to your video, music, or whatever you like without having the light shine in your face
♡ ┊ just close your eyes, and start to think about something safe. do you have OCs you really love and/or a story you want to write ? think about that story ! think about your ocs being happy ! or, maybe you could imagine in-depth what your perfect tea party or picnic would be like, down to picking the fruits and individually preparing each item. what will your basket for your picnic look like ? what will your tea set for your tea party look like ?