ㅤlittle tips to help little hearts


♡ ┊ opening your window, or just the curtains

♡ ┊ trying to get just a little more sunshine

♡ ┊ taking short walks, taking note of nature, feeling the breeze on your skin. physically touch the nature around you, realize how each object has it's own unique textures and qualities. go slow, enjoy yourself

♡ ┊ spending time with a pet if you have one. your pets love you unconditionally

♡ ┊ trying to get plenty of sleep ( if you struggle with sleep, scroll down a little ! )

♡ ┊ removing and/or reducing things that cause stress, ex. social media

♡ ┊ taking time for hygiene--have a shower or bath, brush your teeth, use perfume and/or lotions you like

♡ ┊ making more time for things you genuinely enjoy. think about when you're having the most fun. what is it that makes those times fun ?

♡ ┊ i know you're tired of hearing this, but really, drink some more water

♡ ┊ do what you can to ensure the space around you is clean, neat, and tidy. if the thought of cleaning your space right now sounds far too overwhelming, every time you get up to go use the bathroom or get a snack, just put ONE item where it's supposed to go. just one

♡ ┊ reaching out to your friends. they love you. you are not a bother !!

♡ ┊ reminding yourself that a bad mood can and will lie to you

♡ ┊ you deserve to treat yourself kindly, there's no reason to punish yourself





ㅤmoving on from trauma


♡ ┊ ask yourself how you're feeling. you may in denial, paranoid, feeling helpless, angry, guilty, sad, among many other possible feelings

♡ ┊ identify any physical symptoms you may be having, such as lack of sleep, oversleeping, having an excessive amount of nightmares, poor concentration and/or memory problems, and trouble recalling events, just to name some

♡ ┊ while it may be very, very difficult, please do currate a support system of friends. people who are like you who will love and support you even when youre at your lowest. people who you can recall the events of your trauma to, who will listen and accept you

♡ ┊ don't be afraid to take time to yourself if you just want to be alone, but make certain to treat yourself kindly during these times as well. if you find that your alone time is causing you to spiral into unpleasant thoughts--stop, confide in a friend and tell them about these thoughts. work through them together. enjoy your alone time safely

♡ ┊ don't bottle up your feelings. bottling them up and pretending it never happened will just elongate those feelings, like trapping a bee in a glass jar. you can pretend the bee isn't there, but there's only one true way to remove and free the bee--take the lid off

♡ ┊ don't resort to harmful outlets, please. if you find that you already are doing these things, look into the nessecary steps to stop what's only doing you more harm. you deserve better, i love you

♡ ┊ if your trauma involved an abuser, remind yourself that not everyone is your abuser. not everybody wants to hurt you the way they did

♡ ┊ has your trauma caused you to drop a hobby that you used to love pre-dating the trauma ? take it back up !





ㅤcoping with panic and anxiety


♡ ┊ ground yourself. physically get out a notebook and write 5 things you can currently see, 4 things you can currently feel, 3 things you can currently hear, 2 things you can currently smell, and 1 thing you can currently taste. if there's nothing you can smell or taste or hear, instead write down your favorite flavor, scents, and songs. instead of your favorite flavor, you can also instead write one thing you like about yourself

♡ ┊ try to do something that usually relaxes you, be it a video game or just hugging your favorite plushie

♡ ┊ instead of letting the thoughts in your head overwhelm you, try watching a really funny video. turn the volume up !

♡ ┊ if you're in the mood to, you can try dancing to yourself in your bedroom, it'll help your body offload the extra adrenline

♡ ┊ if you can and would like to, keep as many senses occupied as you can in ways that are positive and beneficial. pet your favorite plushie and really feel the texture, light a candle or spray a scent you enjoy, eat something you like and really focus on the flavor and texture of the food





ㅤhelping with sleep


♡ ┊ do all you can to make sure you're physically comfortable. if your feet are cold, put on some socks ! if you're too warm, use a thinner blanket !

♡ ┊ try drinking a warm drink of your choosing, such as tea or hot milk. avoid cold drinks before bed as they'll just wake you up more

♡ ┊ if you find that you're unable to sleep because of racing thoughts, maybe put on a playlist from a youtuber you've seen a thousand times before, like an old lets-play. it'll be engaging enough to keep your mind from wandering too far, while not being so engaging that you can't fall asleep. make sure the volume isn't too high

♡ ┊ enable night-mode on your devices, it reduces the amount of blue light coming from your screens, which helps your brain to realize that it's time to go to bed

♡ ┊ if you're using a laptop, you can adjust the settings so that you can close the lid without your laptop going into sleep mode, so you can just listen to your video, music, or whatever you like without having the light shine in your face. if you're using a phone or tablet, simply put it face down

♡ ┊ just close your eyes, and start to think about something safe. do you have OCs you really love and/or a story you want to write ? think about that story ! think about your ocs being happy ! or, maybe you could imagine in-depth what your perfect tea party or picnic would be like, down to picking the fruits and individually preparing each item. what will your basket for your picnic look like ? what will your tea set for your tea party look like ?